how not to be a worry wart

Good-whatever-time-it is-when-you-are-reading-this! It has been a while since I ranted about what's in my brain in general, and today my brain suddenly just went into overdrive because of ...💫.life 💫

I honestly have so many words swimming around in my brain to the point where I can't pinpoint where I want to start, or what I want to write, or what I want you guys to read. Please put up with me and buckle up! You are in for a rollercoaster ride inside my brain.

I would say some of my friends know that when I am stressed out, I overshare. And by oversharing I mean as in I would suddenly launch into an essay about how this specific movie is too good to be true, or how I got to be a fan of a specific music genre, or even how matching socks is the way to go. Now that I wrote it all down, I feel so bad for all of my friends LOL 🙉

Yes, I am straying from the topic. Sorry.

So, the gist of this post, the heart of the matter, the essence of today's rant is that I am choosing to surround myself with positivity in the midst of all of this crazy stuff that is happening in our world. 

And, "Why do you feel like you need to share it with us?" you may ask, is to let you know that you also have the choice to do that. Or to just rant. 

I am a worry-wart, I got stressed out listening to the news, I got upset reading articles about social injustice, my stomach churns when I see people not wearing a mask on the street, I could spend all day wishing that nothing bad would come in my life & my closest person's life, I got nauseous thinking about climate change, and I tend to feel this sickening sensation in my stomach when I think about some stuff I prefer not to share. Am I proud of that? No. And do I think that is a good way to live? Also, no.

Sometimes I feel like I can't help it. 

So, what? Yes, I think too much but what can I do about it? Can I do something to change all of the stuff that makes me worried? No. But I can learn how to change the way I perceive the world and how I deal with my worries? YES. And this is how, 

1. I decided that I should be accepting

The first step to change your mindset is to be accepting. You can't solve social injustice if you think that it's not happening in the first place, you can't try to make the earth better if you think climate change is just a conspiracy, and you will keep on being worried about your life if you can't accept the fact that we won't be able to know. For me personally, I just need to remind myself that God has the best plans for us. It is not easy, but I am attempting to do it.

2. Surround yourself with positivity

This is something that I am still working on. I am a believer in embracing your emotion. If you are sad, be sad. If you are angry, be angry (reasonably. of course). I just personally think that embracing your emotion would help in accepting anything that happened to you. And also because we are a human being 👀

BUT! Don't stay in that zone. Feel whatever you need to feel, but come out stronger after that. Don't drown yourself in sad quotes, don't submerge yourself in sad songs. For me, it's kind of like, when I keep telling myself that I am capable and I am resilient, but my phone wallpaper has the fragile Humpty Dumpty from Alice. It just doesn't really go along together. Surround yourself with what you want to see and what you want to BE.

By saying feel what you want/need to feel, I mean as in if you feel like you need to cry, do it. I know some friends who would feel so much better after a good crying session. Associating crying with being vulnerable and associating being vulnerable with weakness is something I have a lot of opinion in and I would rant about it later. Hehe

And lastly, I blocked out a lot of people. I blocked out a lot of "stuff". I stopped listening to devastating news over and over again, I stopped reading articles that make me feel stressed, and I try my best not to rot in "what-if?" anymore.

For some people maybe it would be hard to stop watching the news altogether (Like my grandma and her obsession with watching the news even though she perfectly knows her granddaughter got triggered from it), or it's just hard to stop or decrease doing what I did to make me less worried, then, go on your own journey! Find out what makes you feel better by yourself. Fly, good human, fly! (This is a Friends reference)😝

As we all know, understanding and loving ourselves is a lifelong journey, and I am sure you would have peace with yourself. Soon, I hope. ❤

OH! when you have already found your peace, try your best to help others find it too, okay? Guidance from others in all kinds of ways is always needed even though it's not wanted sometimes.

SIGH, that's it for today's rant. Thank you so much for reading and checking in with me and my blog. I hope I did not offend you with anything that I said.

Give yourself a pat on the back for me!

P.S: In my perspective, being happy in general or being happy with yourself doesn't have to mean you don't feel any sadness at all. It just means that you decided to accept that sometimes there would be a day when you don't feel the best but it would pass and you don't let that sadness dictate your way of thinking anymore.

stay safe in the comfort of your house for me, please!